Raising Boys

A Bad Day

Ever have one of those days where you feel like all you do is yell at your kid(s)? Those really bad days where you are counting the seconds till nap time and it is only 8 a.m. and you go to bed crying thinking you are probably scarring your child for life? These days are the worst!  I hate yelling at my son. I feel terrible about it, but I don’t want an ill mannered hoodlum when he gets older and honestly there are times where I just snap. Don’t get me wrong I never go crazy on my kid or anything like that, but there are those times where you have asked for the 40th time for him to put on his shoes or repeatedly told him to stop doing something and he doesn’t listen that you just snap and bam, there it is, you start yelling. Now, I understand these days are no ones fault and that this happens with kids, especially young kids who are still learning they can assert themselves and how to handle their emotions and blah, blah, blah, knowing this doesn’t make the bad day suck any less.

I have read so many article, and blogs, and books on how to handle strong willed kids, how to stop yelling at your kids, how to be a better parent, how to handle toddlers, and on, and on. We all want to be good parents, so we take whatever advice we can get right? Well, I am telling you we have tried it all. We have given choices, we have a behavior/consequence chart, we have bribed, we have punished, we have taken things away, we have had long talks trying to reason with him. If I found an article on it that had sound backings and made sense we have tried it and most days it works great. Well, where the hell is the article that tells you what to do if none of that works? Yeah, there isn’t one. And those days, those ones where nothing seems to work, those are the bad days! All kids have them and some kids more than others, but there are good days too. Days where everything goes right and you spend the whole day laughing and playing and just enjoying being a parent and having this amazing little person to spend your time with. Hopefully there are more good days than bad, but for some reason we tend to forget the good days and focus on the bad. Thinking we have done something wrong or that we are failing as parents. Well, I am here to tell you, you aren’t! Remember that. Always remember that as long as you give your child love and do the best you possibly can for them that is what matters. ( I am telling myself this currently as today was a very bad day!)

So put the turds to bed early, grab a glass of wine, a piece of chocolate cake, or a pint of Ben and Jerry’s fish food (my fix all) and forget about the bad day, because tomorrow is a new day with a fresh start and there is a good chance it will be a good day.

Stay strong!